Dating girl in wheelchair
Much of it comes from ignorance, while others want to try and demonstrate how cool they are with my disability, so they feel the need to call it out.
People largely have good intentions, but just don’t know what to do. These lines have been tried on me over a hundred times over the last few years, and they have literally worked once.
There have been times in my life when I was afraid no one would ever want to date a person in my situation.
It’s a constant push and pull between trusting my instincts and being unsure of what’s to come.
I tried my hand at the world of online dating for a while (spoiler alert: it’s the worst), often leaving out the fact that I’m in a wheelchair until the conversation had progressed.
To me, it shouldn’t have an impact on my level of attractiveness, but the guys I came into contact with usually had something offensive to say in response.
Any relationship will falter when there’s not open communication, but it’s even more important when you’re dating someone with a disability.
The same person also believed in completely ditching the chair whenever possible. No problem, throw the girl over your shoulder (although you should definitely ask first).
Some of my boyfriends have left me out of things like skiing or beach days, or constantly assumed I needed help because they thought activities would be too difficult for me.